Cancer, Alzheimer’s, a stroke, a broken hip – these are all reasons why older adults find themselves in need of care. To save money, most families decide to provide the care their parents need on their own. You’re in that situation and are uncertain.
Being a family caregiver is a loving act, but it’s also filled with stress, uncertainty, joy, and happiness. The joy and happiness are easy to take, but it’s not as easy when a parent is yelling at you, refusing to do what you’re asking, or pushing you away.
You’ve tried being a family caregiver, and it’s not for you. Family members are saying you’re selfish. They’re saying you need to care for your parents. Don’t listen to them. Being a family caregiver isn’t for everyone. It’s okay if you’ve tried and know it’s not going to work.
Family Caregivers Often Face Hurdles That Home Care Aides Don’t
Your parents are comfortable with you. They know you and have likely told you off at some point in your childhood. A professional caregiver is not as familiar. Your parents may be more willing to listen to the caregiver and do what’s being asked.
It’s not always the case. If your mom or dad has dementia, you need to play for stubborn moments and challenging behaviors. Suddenly, the mom who provided unconditional love is saying she wants you to go away and never return. Your dad is pushing you out of the way to try to get outside. It hurts, and it’s foolish to deny you can overlook it.
Disease or not, watching those changes in your parent is hard. With home care services, you’re able to distance yourself. You’ll still visit, but it’s likely to go better if you’re there to do something fun rather than issue instructions.
There’s also a physical aspect to caregiving that can be hard. You may have a hard time lifting your dad out of bed in the morning. He’s twice your size, and you’re straining your back trying to lift him. Before you physically injure yourself, it’s wise to think about your health. You can still help him, but you could help in other ways and leave the heavy lifting to trained professionals.
It’s often more caring to hire a professional home care aide who has the expertise to care for your parents. Caregivers often undergo some training and have experience caring for older adults. You don’t and that makes it harder to match the level of care they can give. Call a home care agency to learn more.
If you or an aging loved one is considering home care in Big Timber, MT, please contact the caring staff at SYNERGY HomeCare Billings today at 406-839-2390.
